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Beyond Chaos: One Man's Journey Alongside His Chronically Ill Wife
by Gregg Piburn
Product Group: Book
Publisher: Arthritis Foundation (1999-01-25)
ISBN: 091242320X
EAN: 9780912423203
Dewy Decimal #: 362.1960440092
Paperback: 320 pages
Edition: 1
SKU: T070719-4416
Condition: Very Good
Comments: Very good overall condition. No writing, very tight binding. Ships same day or next in a bubble mailer. Enjoy.
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Product Description
A personal account of marriage to someone with a chronic illness, including humorous and touching anecdotes, and useful advice.
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Customer Reviews
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Not what I expected
Rating  (2)
Date: 2007-10-19
3 out of 5 customers found this reveiw helpful
I have had chronic pain problems for over 10 years. I bought this book thinking my husband might feel a resonance in our lives and ability to cope with the loss of our preplanned vision of our future. My husband has been such a tremendous support to me all through these years and could write his own book of the stages he has gone through to adapt to my illness. What my husband would tell Gregg Piburn is that it is only when you realize that "it isn't all about him" could he learn how to cope not just with my illness but his aging parents where one has Alzheimers disease and the other has developed such severe immobility issues they can barely move. I tried to read the book cover to cover but really could only scan it, it felt jumpy and unfocused as illness progress along a path and it is the travel along the path that creates the ability to survive and be able to cope or not cope. Life and illness build on itself and repetition of certain fluxes in one illness are different than the appearance of a new and yet to be figured out health problem that may or may not be a variant of existing problems. I think the book is a catharsis of how his own mind and emotions have ricocheted around but as a source of guidance for others on how they might cope, it is not that kind of reading.
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Written so that men will actually read it - doesn't get any better than that!
Rating  (5)
Date: 2006-12-14
7 out of 7 customers found this reveiw helpful
Beyond Chaos is one of the best books for men who have a wife who lives with a chronic illness. A few years after recommending this book to many people I mentioned it to someone who is "a good friend" of the author, Gregg Piburn. She shared with me just how much heart went into this book.
This book is not from the perspective of a "know it all" and "follow my directions." It's written by a humble man who daily feels inadequate for this journey he has been called on to care for his ill wife. His deep love and constant support is obvious, but he still struggles with the feeling that he's put his foot in his mouth one more time.
I think his vulnerability is what makes this book a gem and one that men can actually relate to and find comfort and encouragement in. More books like this need to exist, but time will never make this one any less worthwhile. 10 stars!
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Egocentric
Rating (2)
Date: 2005-10-28
9 out of 20 customers found this reveiw helpful
First of all, I highly commend Mr. Piburn for having the courage to write his story. Although, the further I got into the book, the more egocentric his style of writing became. I felt like many times he was focusing more on how to say things than sharing what was really going on. When I arrived at the part in the book where he expresses that a man has to ejaculate sometimes, I could no longer read this. It sounded chauvinistic to me. As a female partner of someone with chronic pain, I can only say that I'm sure both sexes have a need to experience the release of orgasm. Maybe the book would be more helpful to a male who is the well spouse.
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Honestly written!
Rating (5)
Date: 2005-10-14
9 out of 9 customers found this reveiw helpful
This is one of the best books on how people cope with Fibro that I have read. This man is honest about how he feels and how he struggles in his role as caretaker of an ill spouse. It helped give me insight into what my husband must go through in helping to keep me sane and well as this illness steals both our lives.
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Nice, but he must be a saint...
Rating  (3)
Date: 2005-08-29
14 out of 19 customers found this reveiw helpful
As the husband of a person with chronic illness, I thought I might find some great insight and perspective that might lead me to a different path of thought or feeling. Didn't happen here.
While I agree that to a large part his attitude is great (almost saintly if you ask me) what I really didn't see in this was someone who really, really was real. While it definitely comes from a unique experience for material in this area, it still leans more toward the standard stuff on the subject.
IMHO, if this is the worst reaction(s) he ever had, then I want what he is taking.
Its a good book, if you have a life more Cleaver then Simpson. Unfortunately, most of us live in another world. Thanks Gregg, for writing the book. Guess I'll have to write one myself...
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